A few weeks ago, the phone rang. It was one of those calls. The unexpected ones. My husband had been hurt at work. It was a bad accident that could have been tragic.
Through God’s mercy, he walked away from the incident. He ended up on light duty for a month, and had therapy 3 days a week for 6 weeks. This put him pretty much out of commission at home. The first few days I was patient, kind, loving and all those things a “good” wife should be. Then, after the first week turned into to two, I became tired, “sick of it” and wore down.
To many times, unexpected events can take our joy. We often times choose to dwell on all the things we can’t do, or all things that can and do go wrong. This is what I was doing at that time. I had to sit down (write this post) and really think about the ways I could find joy in our unexpected circumstances.
I could complain about the fact that my husband was unable to do the yard work, or I could choose joy and be thankful that I was able to learn something new. I had never started or used a push mower before, or our riding mower. I can now proudly take that task when my hubby needs me to. I could also choose gratitude for a healthy younger brother who was able and willing to come and do the work I was unable to complete.
I could complain about the lack of overtime and shorter hours, or be thankful that after months of crazy hours he was home in time for dinner every night.
I could be annoyed over water glasses on the table, dishes next to the bed, and one shoe in the middle of the floor. Or, I could thank God that he was still around to leave those messes around the house.
I could get weighed down over a bank account that was smaller than it was before, or I could choose contentment over the fact that our bills are paid, we have food in the fridge, and gas in our cars.
Yes, this accident was unexpected. Yes, it led us both on a journey we had never been on before. But, instead of dwelling on the unexpected and allowing it to rob me of my peace, I learned that I needed to choose gratitude, thankfulness, contentment and joy for all the blessings the Lord still provided us with.
What about you? Have you ever had an unexpected incident try to steal your joy?
Jenny says
I love this! Perspective makes such a difference–something I’ve been working on for years.
Misty says
Thank you!
apronstringsotherthings says
Thank you for sharing this with us, Misty – I am often in need of the reminder to look for the joy rather getting bogged down in the not-so-fun stuff.
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Misty says
Thank you! He is almost back to 100%.
Jennifer | The Deliberate Mom says
Wonderful attitude to have Misty. Too often we let circumstances rob us of our joy. With an attitude of gratitude and joy we can handle the big life moments with so much more grace. Thankful to the Lord that your husband’s injury was just that… and praying he has a speedy recovery.
Wishing you a lovely weekend.
xoxo
Misty says
I bet it is! Prayers for you and your family!
Misty says
I bet it is! Prayers for you and your family!
Misty says
You are welcome! Thank you so much for sharing your store with me. I’ll pray for you guys! I know it is SO hard having a parent out of commission!
Charity C (@signingcharity) says
My live with bipolar disorder. That provides lots of unexpected. It is VERY hard to choose joy, but I try, as much as possible for my girls and hubby.
Nicole says
Thank you for this today! I recently had an unexpected surgery and am the one out of commission at home. Both my husband and I have been short with each other, grumpy, and stressed out. Just this morning (after a big argument), I decided I would choose joy instead. I’ve reminded myself of that twice already, and then read this. Perfect for me today! Thank you. And I hope your husband heals quickly.