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Dear Mom who does not want to homeschool, I see you. I know how you feel. You like your freedom. You like the way things are. You don’t want to be one of “those” people.
Dear Mom who does not want to homeschool, I see you. I know how you feel. Maybe you feel this nudge to homeschool, but you don’t want to do it. You like your freedom. You like the way things are. You don’t want to be one of “those” people.
You don’t want to homeschool.
Maybe you don’t feel led to homeschool. Maybe you just don’t have the desire to.
Yet, you feel pressured. Your friend’s homeschool. People in your church homeschool. Your spouse wants you to homeschool. But you just don’t want to.
That’s okay!
I am a firm believer that not everyone is called to homeschool. Homeschooling is not a fix all answer, and too oftentimes people jump into it because they think it is easy. Or they want to do it because so and so does and their kids are great! They think it will end the bullying, or be easier than homework, or for some other reason. And you know what happens? Homeschooling doesn’t always work. And the kids end up back in public school.
Dear mom, if you don’t want to homeschool, then don’t! I feel that in order for homeschooling to work you have to WANT to homeschool. You have to be in it full force. Your spouse has to be on board, your kids need to be on board, homeschooling is a lifestyle choice, and when there is not a firm foundation, it will not stand.
If you don’t want to homeschool, then don’t! It’s okay! Don’t feel like you need to explain yourself to others. Don’t feel like there’s something wrong because it’s not how you feel called to educate your children. Make the choice and own it.
But, what if you have that nudge… and it won’t go away?
What if you have the nudge to homeschool, and it won’t go away? What if you feel like it is God’s will, but fear is holding you back? I’ve been where you are. I felt the nudge. Yet, I didn’t want to take the leap. My husband didn’t want to take the leap. We wanted to keep being normal. But, you know what? God changed our minds. It happened, slowly, over time. And now? We wouldn’t have it any other way!
You see, if God calls you to homeschool, He will guide you through it. It may be scary at first, but you will get the hang of it, and before you know it, you will fall in love with homeschooling!
Dear mom, if you don’t want to homeschool, I encourage you to look at the reasons why you feel that way. If you don’t feel led to homeschool, then don’t! Don’t let others pressure you into a decision that is not right for your family.
Yet, if you feel led, but fear is holding you back, can I encourage you today to look into what you are afraid of?
If you feel like you can’t homeschool I encourage you to take a look at this series. It answers many of the questions that are holding potential homeschoolers back. If you feel like others will judge you and you don’t want to deal with that, check out this series. If you feel God calling you to homeschool, yet you don’t want to, pray about it. Talk to someone about your fears and why you don’t want to take that leap. Send me a message, I will pray with you.
Homeschooling is not a decision to be taken lightly, and please know that if you just don’t want to homeschool, you are not alone. Many of us have been right where you are. Struggling with which way to go, not wanting to cave to peer pressure, or feeling a nudge to step out of our comfort zone.
Yet, in the end, we had to make a choice that fit the needs of our family. What choice is that for you?
My quandary is that I feel that homeschooling would deeply benefit my children, but I simply don’t want to spend my time that way, at least not when they’re little and need so much of my time. I am a writer and called to write, not to homeschool. I fear I will resent my children if I give up my vocation for them. And I feel they will be limited and frustrated in a traditional school, and taught to equate their self-worth with their academic compliance. How to reconcile the two?
Hi! Do you have a local community you can reach out to? That would be the first step. After that, I would check out this post where I lay out exactly how to get started homeschooling. You can do this!!
I ve felt the nudge for about four years and wanted to try so badly.
With this covid situation and having all my kids at home with a newborn and online schooling….I feel I can t do it anymore even if I believe it s the right time and having the right reasons to do it.
I am so scared of having them all day long,I am also scared I won t be able to juggle it all,housework,new baby s needs,planning curriculum,entertain them.Not good at multi-tasking.
I am stuck because of fear and I can t decide what to do next.
Hey Julia! True story, I was the only one of my friends who homeschooled when we started. Now, almost all my friends followed suit. It’s like once one gets brave enough the others see that we’re not such quacks 😉 Praying for you!
This is so me. I feel as if I’m called to do homeschool even though majority of my friends send their kids to private schools (my oldest actually goes to k5 right now to a private school which is amazing). But it’s hard to be the odd ball out that feels called to do so much more. Plus I feel as though I have so little patience in my three kids already, if I start homeschool they’ll just hate me yelling at them all day right!? And I don’t even know what resources I need. Please pray for me and my situation. I would like to know what to do for the upcoming September year.